Seems to me, if you want to know the real me, look me in the eye.
Want to hear my backstory…my eyes speak volumns.
Want to learn of my talents, skills, and abilities…they sparkle in my eyes.
Want to begin to understand my passions and calling…my eyes reflect the needs.
Want to unlock my motivations and drives…my eyes hold the key.
Want to embrace my fears and tears…begin in my eyes.
Want to experience my joys and exuberation…discover them in my eyes.
I believe that no “heart to heart” understanding will ever exist between two humans, especially those who may have diametrically opposing points of view, without beginning with eye-to-eye interaction. For, in some important ways, being eye to eye isn’t about agreeing, but simply learning.
First, it requires close physical proximity. No “virtual” connection behind which we can hide or remain anonymous, at least to some degree.
Second, it acknowledges that the other side of the interaction is actually a human being. Not a theory, not a belief, not a movement, not a sin. A living, breathing human being.
Third, if we are serious about true engagement and learning, then it will require that we exercise major discipline. The act of simply keeping our mouths from spouting off along with listening closely are major hurdles for many.
Fourth, it facilitates clarification. The back and forth of conversational flow happens best in this type of setting while looking in another’s eyes.
Most importantly, the eyes are the gatekeepers of the heart. In the deepest ways and on the most important issues of life, we don’t enter into one another’s hearts unless we first look into each other’s eyes.
I am a man…a husband…a father…a grandpa…a Christian…gay…in a mixed oriented marriage…chaste.
But as complicated as all that is, there is much more to me. But, you will never know unless we get…
Eye to eye.