The Problem With Gay People Is That They Are…

I know you’ve got a problem with gay people. Let me see if I’ve got this “straight” (pun included at no extra cost) –

The problem with gay people is that they are…

We love. We dislike. We work. We play. We hope. We lose hope. We dream. We despair. We are just normal people. Just like you.

We do not have some kind of mental or physical disease that needs to be fixed or cured. This is who we are. Our sexual orientation is just as an integral part of us as your heterosexual orientation is an integral part of you. Which means that just like you didn’t choose heterosexuality, we didn’t choose our homosexuality; just like you can’t change your orientation, we can’t change ours. This isn’t a fad or a phase we are going through. We aren’t out to win some popularity contest or be “cool” (are you kidding??).

For most of “us,” at least for those of us who are “out” to some extent, this has been a journey that has taken a significant amount of time and effort in our lives. In my own case, I’ve been on this journey since about the age of 9. In my compartmentalized state, I kept this hidden and secret. All because of the imposed shame that I was given. But, I have nothing to be ashamed of. I’m just your normal guy.

Too bad you can’t see me like that.

You really wish we were strange, freaky, hateful, and unlovable people. But, come to find out, we aren’t.

I know that’s a problem for you.

People of Faith
It may make you uncomfortable. It may make you squirm. You may not be able to bring yourself to accept the fact. But it is a fact. We love God. We love to worship. We love to study the Bible. We love to discuss theology. We love the community of faith. We love to volunteer to make our churches happy and healthy. We love to work alongside of you to reach the community and make it a better place. We believe that “God so loved the world that He gave His one and only son” (John 3:16). We are faithful followers of Christ. We are Christian.

Yes, we are gay Christians.

You really wish we were God-hating, devil-worshiping people. But, come to find out, we aren’t.

I know that’s a problem for you.

You are right…we do, in fact, have an agenda.

Here is my personal gay agenda.

Here is the perspective of the “gay agenda” by a LGBTQ supporter.

You really wish we were out to destroy everything you hold dear. But, come to find out, we aren’t.

I know that’s a problem for you.


It is my belief that if these three facts could be embraced, then we could begin to have a good conversation about how true “community” can be expressed and experienced by all people. Straight and LGBTQ alike.

And more than a conversation. Conviction. Then…reality.



7 thoughts on “The Problem With Gay People Is That They Are…

  1. Wonderful post, well written. I think the thing that makes it hard for me is that gay people are just people. We have some great people, we have some not so great. There are the ones you really want to get to know and spend time with and the ones you hate to be around and the jerks and the ones who are compassionate and some who are mean. Some are these things and more every day. I guess what I am saying is we are just people. Every day people. See I know all gay people want to see all other gay people as above all negative stuff and some kind of super good people, but we are still just people. Hugs

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  2. Very well written, Trevor. I like the emphasis on not choosing an orientation. It’s a similar point Janell Paris made in her book, ‘The End of Sexual Identity: Why Sex is too important to define who we are’. Orientation isn’t usually something chosen. Man, I believe God is using you in awesome ways in this blog. Thanks for taking time to write!

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  3. Yes. I must say yes. Often people find out that their problem with sexual orientation is less about me and more about them. Meet a Christian gay person. Pow. Life changed. We’re not just statistics or concepts anymore.

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