“It’s never too late to start doing what is right.”
Charles Swindoll

I’ve been thinking a lot about legacy the last few days. With the death of my wife’s grandmother and being reminded of her loving and Godly life, I’ve been transported back to memories of other Godly people in my life and the impact they have left on my life…their legacy. Those lives were marked by the uncanny ability to sense the will of God in how to live their lives and an ability to fearlessly live it out in different locales and situations. A seemingly unshakable faith in their Heavenly Father to always know best and ability to always provide for the basics of life. Grandparents and parents have directly and powerfully shaped me.

Although there have been bright spots in my life where I “had it together” more than others, in general I’ve been somewhat of a poor steward of that faith and legacy. In fact, one could say that I’ve blown it.

But, it’s never too late to start doing what is right.

I’ve reached the half-century mark. I keep telling my wife that I’m going to live to the age of 100. So, I truly hope that the last half of my life will be more legacy-building than the first half. My legacy will include three main components:

* Faith – the last couple of years, my faith has been in a deconstruction/reconstruction process. I’ve told people that I’ve “thrown out the bath water but kept the Baby (Jesus).” My faith now contains some basic essentials about which I won’t compromise, and only a few things that are important to my personal faith journey but not necessarily essential to my faith in Christ. That means that I’m much more fearless in my conversations with others about life and how faith plays a part in one’s life, a fearless confidence in Christ and His life in me, and a life that embraces more hope on a daily basis than I have experienced in the previous years of my life. I want my legacy to be one that will be remembered as one which engaged and walked with other people on their journey of faith…exploring and discovering together the power of Christ.

* Family – if you read much of my blog you know the devastation that my actions introduced into the fabric of my family. My family is the most precious series of relationships I have on this earth. It is also the most precarious…and if I’m not careful, it can be eternally destroyed. I am determined that my legacy will be a fully faithful and more engaged, happy, and supportive husband, father, and grandpa than ever before.

* Ministry – since I’m not only a PK (preacher’s kid) but also a minister with 20+ years of experience in local church ministry, I know how to “do church”…and how to do it well. But, that’s not really what I want my legacy to be. I want it to be transformative. I want it to be the sojourning of souls on an exploration and discovery of faith and community. My life experiences, as partially displayed in the words of this blog, provide a unique door through which some powerful ministry can take place. I want my legacy to be to lead the church into a more loving stance to the LGBTQ community and “by all means save some.”

It’s never too late to start doing what is right.

Doing it.



5 thoughts on “Legacy

  1. Hello Trevor and congratulations on your introspective thoughts. You make some good points at this time in your life. I would say I think you left out enjoying your journey of acceptance and loving your self from the list, but then I could have misunderstood. I hope you don’t mind if I address some of the points you raise. Your Faith. I think it is well known I do not share the same faith as you and that I also support your right to have that faith fully. I have no problems with personal faith as long as I am not being pressured to be part of it, live by it, or forced to join in it. I think personal faith is a positive and helpful thing. The human mind is incredible powerful and if you believe in something that gives you strength and comfort I think that is great. The only thing I would hope is your faith includes accepting you for who and what you are. I first left two churches because they wouldn’t accept me for who I was born to be, but after getting me to be a member suddenly told me I had a duty to change and to show the world I had changed. I had not and wouldn’t do such a lie. We parted ways. Today I have a personal internal faith that accepts who and what I am and gives me strength and happiness to practice. Again I hope the same joy for you.
    As for family. A very sore subject for me. I have found that family is what we make it, not those we were born to have blood with nor forced to go from childhood to adult with. I despise and dislike the people I grew up with. I have a hard time with my biological parents for letting me go to live with those monsters. However I have learned the joy and value of the family Ron and I have created and the young man we took into our home and who became our son. So yes I agree family is hugely important, however it has to a family that welcomes you, and uplifts you, something that strengthens you, not tears you down.
    As for ministering, I think it has to be like family, it has to be good for both you and the those you minister to. I would hope you with your vast skill could bring your ministry to help gay people. Maybe you could find a way to let gay people and your faith to get joined in harmony. Maybe you can use your skills honed over all these years to help young gay kids understand that God loves them also and doesn’t hate them like so many say.
    Sorry this got so long, my best wishes to you and I hope great joy in your life. Hugs


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